Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Therapy
Infertility and pregnancy loss can be devastating experiences, and we want you to know that you are not alone. While the circumstances may vary, nearly 20% of couples trying to conceive for the first time are experiencing the same or similar heartache. Still, statistics don’t lessen the heartache or numbness you’re feeling in your quest to grow your family. It can be a harrowing and emotional journey, but with the right support, you can find hope and healing.
I can help you navigate the physical, emotional, and psychological impacts of infertility and provide you with the tools and resources you need to cope, heal, and move forward in your journey to parenthood, however that looks for you. Receive support from someone who’s been there personally, who won’t sugar coat the reality you face, but can make it easier to hold.
Infertility can be like a roller coaster ride, with its ups and downs, twists and turns, and unpredictable outcomes.
Your journey may feel like being stuck in a never-ending maze, where every path you take seems to lead to dead ends and frustration.
Infertility can be like a stormy sea, with waves of emotions and uncertainty crashing around you, making it difficult to find solid ground.
Infertility can feel like a heavy weight on your shoulders that you can't seem to shake off, no matter how hard you try.
Many dealing with pregnancy loss or infertility experience profound loneliness.
Even though infertility is not uncommon, it’s a specter in conversations that isn’t often mentioned—even with your closest friends. It can feel uncomfortable to talk about and excruciating to go through, especially when you feel alone.
Even those who have their own fertility story to tell may not understand the circumstances that sets your situation apart, or may be too deep in their own hurt to show up the way you need.
Even individuals who have an incredibly supportive partner, may still desire the support of a therapist that’s experienced in helping others deal with pregnancy loss or infertility.
You are not defined by your journey with infertility.
However this grief has shown up in your life, complex emotions about your fertility status are valid and normal. They deserve your attention, even if you’re not ready to put your heart on display for others.
Acknowledging fertility struggles with friends, loved ones, or even just with a therapist may feel too painful right now, but you deserve to feel happiness, regardless of your ability to conceive or carry a child.
Your worth and value as a person are not determined by your fertility status. We will work together to help you reclaim that truth through resilience, honesty and hope.
Infertility can have a significant impact on your mental health, including depression, anxiety, and relationship issues so let’s talk about some of the specifics you might want to receive support in coping with during your journey and all its unexpected turns.
Some of the ways you may feel supported during infertility therapy:
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Infertility can trigger a range of difficult emotions, such as sadness, anger, guilt, and anxiety. It may empower you to have support to understand and manage these emotions in a healthy way, so you can feel more in control of your body and mind.
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Fertility treatment can be overwhelming and confusing. Together, we can work on processing your response to your options, working through your feelings around the medical system, and preparing to advocate for yourself confidently.
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Infertility can strain relationships with partners, friends, and family. Having a safe space to sort through your feelings in therapy can leave more room in your other relationships. This can improve communication, set boundaries, and strengthen your relationships as you navigate this challenging time.
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Infertility can feel like a never-ending struggle, but we can help you find hope and resilience in the face of adversity. We'll work with you to identify your strengths, values, and goals, and help you find meaning and purpose in your journey.
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Infertility can be an incredibly stressful and anxiety-inducing experience, but we're here to help you manage these emotions and find peace of mind. We can work to find relaxation techniques, mindfulness exercises, and other coping strategies to help you feel more relaxed and reduce stress and anxiety.
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Pregnancy loss or miscarriage can be a devastating experience for many individuals and couples. I offer support and guidance to help you navigate the complex emotions and grief associated with these experiences.
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If you're considering a new step in achieving your goals of growing your family, you might need some support that isn’t medically motivated. Things like adoption, IVF, using donor eggs/sperm or surrogacy are deeply personal. You deserve a dedicated space to build support, and I want to provide it. Together we can work through the emotional aspects of these complex and often complicated choices.
You are not a failure.
When infertility or pregnancy loss are a part of your story, it can feel like a failure, or a judgment on your character or worth. I am here to assure you that it isn’t in any way. Some people may struggle with feeling at odds with their body (perhaps for the first time in their life). Others may feel like they are unworthy of love or the gift of parenthood. But regardless of your ability to conceive or carry a child, you are deserving of love, happiness, and fulfillment.
Coping with infertility is a journey, and it's important to be patient and kind to yourself (despite these incessant internal voices) along the way. There is hope and healing to be found, and with the right support and resources, you can find the path forward that is right for you.
Therapy for pregnancy loss & infertility
Every individual's journey with infertility is unique. Yours, mine, and every story you’ll read online and in books will attest to that. It’s important that we never forget to honor and respect the complexity of that journey even as we’re walking it together.
Some of the approaches we might use in infertility therapy to help you cope with your grief, make decisions and explore your options are person-centered therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), introspection and identification. I am also a certified grief educator, so the losses you’ve accumulated in this journey with infertility will always be honored here.
Above all, I believe that you are the expert in your life and should always have the power to decide how you move through your experience. We can reframe, rework, and reimagine together so that you can take back that power in your life even as you work through the murky uncertainty of infertility.
Are you ready to feel seen, heard, and supported?
It's okay to feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the emotional and physical toll of infertility—but you don’t have to stay in those feelings.
With the right support and resources, you can navigate the challenges of infertility and find a path forward towards the life you’re longing for.